Whose Wedding Is It?

August 19, 2009

Letterhead SOS 09_edited-1Ever meet a bride (or maybe you are one) who has no say-so about her own wedding.  The mom is running the show. Telling her what is allowed and what is acceptable and who she should hire and how she should act.  It’s pitiful!

But…I suppose it has always been that way in their relationship.

Sooner or later these brides are going to have to leave the nest and fend for themselves. Seems to me that a wedding should be the time and place to make a clean break.

If mom and dad are footing the entire bill, don’t complain. You asked for it!

On the flip side…whose wedding is it? Ease up a little and let your daughter spread her wings.  Even if you think she’s marrying a loser.



There is nothing more emotionally charged, more beautiful or exciting than getting married.  What do you remember about that special day?  For those of you  married once, and still are, was that special day glorious?  Maybe it’s hard to remember because you were very young, very drunk or very nervous.  Maybe it was perfect and still is.

For most brides and grooms, that special day can be very overwhelming due to finances, parental pressure, early pregnancy and immaturity.

I have seen too many instances where the parents control the entire event or couples are thrown into a commitment of marriage for the wrong reasons.

Their intentions are admirable and they want a picture perfect wedding with all of the accoutrements.

Here comes the 64 thousand dollar question…

“If you had to do it all over again (with the same person, or just over again) would you??

I believe the answer for many would be, “NO”.

The reasons are many,
*  Too young, highschool sweetheart.
*  Pregnant
*  Friend or family member got married and you got caught up in the moment and proposed.
* Marriage was an escape from ?
* Pressured into marriage

Unfortunately most end in divorce and the general consensus is never to get married again!

But then you meet someone.  You get those butterflies and heart palpitations you haven’t felt for years.
You’re older now, sometimes 10 or 15 years older, more mature, in a better financial situation (sometimes) and the “W” word pops up.

Logically this doesn’t make sense. “I’m too old or mature to go down that silly path again.”
Emotionally it makes total sense because your heart is still 17 years old.

And then it happens. You become engaged and start to plan another wedding. YIKES!

But i’ts your second wedding and you feel funny about doing all of those things at a wedding that now seem a little silly.

Just because this isn’t the first time, don’t think it won’t or can’t be as special as your first time.  In most cases, the second or third time can be a charm.

Yes you were married before- but not to this special person.  Make it special!
For most, the second time is more fulfilling, more meaningful and less stressful than the first time.
You’re older, wiser, and know your expectations and priorities. You are born again!

Be creative and have fun with it!

* Get the kids involved- Your children will feel more part of the new family when they   participate (ring bearer, flower girl, ushers, best man and maid of honor)  It might be a nice touch to give each child a ring to signify the union of the family

* Do what you want– Forget about your previous wedding. That was in the past. This is a new chapter in your life. This new relationship is special and you want it to last. Do what makes you happy. Ignore what others might say or think.  Where a white dress or denim pants with matching Hawaiin shirts and make this day as large or small as you want.<br>

* You are in control and that is a good feeling.

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You’ve got one shot at your big day…How do you know if the DJ will be a success or a disaster. 

Want the right DJ?  Make sure the DJ you hire is the “Owner/Operator”
Many “owners” of DJ companies are not the operators, they sub out the weddings to their employees.

 Who do you think is going to do a better job? Who is going to be dedicated and passionate?

The employee or the owner?  The answer is obvious…

Yes you will pay more because you are getting quality not quantity. Think of that extra amount for an owner/operator as insurance that your event will go off without a hitch.

What a great question. You see….you are already learning so much about the  wedding biz.

Because the DJ industry is not regulated….anyone can knight themselves a “DJ”.  Some think if they can put two songs together they are a DJ. And, to add insult to injury, they might DJ a friends wedding and now beleive they are a wedding DJ.  Unfortunatley this also is a problem in the photography business.

 When looking for a wedding DJ or any vendor for that matter, know what questions to ask.  What you don’t know can cost you financially and emotionally.

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What have you got to lose?…….Nothing

What is the deal with…

January 23, 2007

What is the deal with people getting married? I mean, it’s not like going steady. It’s supposed to be a huge deal, right?  So why do these people want to have a party to celebrate this enormous life changing moment by treating it like a 6 year olds birthday?

Why should we hire a DJ for our wedding reception when we have a perfectly good boom box in the garage?? 

We don’t need no steenken photographer…just get a bunch of cardboard cameras from Walmart!!

Caterers can’t compete with tater tots and cocktail weenies!

And who are the ad wizards that came up with having a reception at a wedding venue when you got that great dirt lot out back!!

 What is this? A 4th of July BYOB party, or a wedding?

Maybe we need to define “Wedding” or maybe some people do it so much it’s taking the meaning out of it.

Unless your Grizzly Adams and you rented the Rocky Mountains, don’t mix the backyard parties with the wedding reception.

For some, their wedding reception might be the only classy event they ever experience.  Why not make it GRAND??

The problem is….Extravagant Wedding = Extravagant Bills ( not necessarily)


There are people who spend hours and hours putting together guides that eliminate all of the worries and headaches associated with planning a wedding.

That is the subject of my next post.